Maybe it's because you are a visual person. You can see a problem, analyze, then find a solution. With your problems, though, you only see others point of view in your situation, and have to go verbally on your part, which is way more harder to think in. Also, don't forget, this time, there are WAY more emotions going on in your mind then other times.Why do ppl that give good advice cant give it to themselves?
Why do people, that ';give'; good advice. Can't ';ask'; advice
of others?
Some people are so ';pre-occupied'; in helping others.
What they want to ask of ';themselves,'; seems ';trivial.'; %26lt;}:-})
it's easier to deal with others pain and problems than your own, and you can be more objective with others. you need to face your own pain, stress, problems and just write in journal, therapy, friend, etc.just take things one step at a time, and start with just one tiny problem.
I am guilty of the same thing. I'm sorry you are having troubles. I'll pray for you.
They are too busy giving advise and the forget to ask themselves for one.
When you give advice to someone it's easier because you' aren't directly involved. It' harder to take your own advice because you have a lot to lose if you don't get it right. With other people you can be objective about the outcome with you're self you're subjective. That's what makes it more difficult to take you own advice there's to much riding on the out come.
its the same with me. sometimes u just cant help urself like u do others. its not that ur more complicated, its just that sometimes people understand others that they are around a lot but they dontn understand themselves because they dont pay that much attention to what they do themselves. that may not make any sense to you whatsoever but the main point is: DONT FREAK OUT. THIS IS WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR. TO HELP U WHEN U CANT HELP YOURSELF.
Because it is so easy to give advice. I always felt that people can come up to me for their problems, and I try to give what seems like good advice. But when it comes to my own problems, I don't talk because I hope I can figure things out for myself, but this isn't the case, specially at this time of my life.
Simple...your not objective with yourself...no one can be..
Think of it this way..Football teams have coaches who are on the side lines calling the plays..why?? because they can see the whole field...where the players can only see a part of the field...
Because you are in the middle of your life you can see the BIG pic accurately ...
Because you are objective with your friends and on the sidelines (so to speak) you can give better advice because you have the whole picture in focus..
The same reason why counselors and psychologists (and doctors) go to see counselors, psychologists and doctors. It is a known fact that professionals cannot treat themselves. It is not a weakness on your part. It is perfectly normal. There's a big difference between knowing the answers and taking the steps you need to take to solve the problems.
As a fat person, I know what is nutritious and what isn't. I don't need a nutritionist to explain that my soda and hamburgers are fattening. Giving them up, on the other hand, isn't so easy. :-) Be kind to yourself.
This is what I've noticed..and I've been wanting to say it on here. I've noticed that when I give answers to others..I'm also giving answers to myself. Things come into my head and onto this page that solve a lot of problems and questions I've had. I couldn't sit down with myself and tell myself these things..but when I tell ya'll...I'm finding answers for myself too. So..THANKS!!!
People think differently about other people's problems than they do their own. When presented with someone else's problem, you aren't experiencing all the emotions they they are, so you can think about it more logically. However, when it's your own problem, your feelings can get in the way of thinking about what to do in the situation.
Well, I wondered about this myself. I think it is because you get to see someone else麓s situation from an outside view, which is really hard to do it with yourself. Seeing things this way, you can manage the problems easier and faster.
I find it useful to write my problems, and somehow it has this effect. I start seeing them more manageable since I don麓t have them inside my head all the time, surrounded by emotions that blind my reasoning.
when we think about our problems, our emotions get in our way. when we give ourselves advice, we don't want to let ourselves down. the same thing happens with me. i can sit here all day and think of things to fix other people's problems, but when i start to go over mine and find things to do about them, my mind goes blank. maybe by asking your friends, or the people on here your questions, it will help you get through your problems, and may answer other people's questions as well.
';We teach best what we need to learn';
--Richard Bach
Because you have so much going on with you. You aren't in the right state of mind. And you need support from someone else not yourself.
Because we know what's right but may be too lazy or unmotivated to do it for ourselves, at least some things anyway.
This is exactly why I like Yahoo questions... I feel like i can help others and give advice. It actually helps me feel better about myself . If I want help on stuff I will try and discuss it over with my therapist. or sometimes throw it out on yahoo questions.
because you realize its actually you liek the saying goes ';easier said than done'; such as telling someone to talk to a counselor(which i dont tell people why pay someone to listen) sounds easy? well its very hard and plus people dont look at their choices like they look at another persons and organize them thats why people cant give advise to themselves
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